How many words are you into that Bernard fic? Clearly that is the most important question right now 8D.
4k. It’s really easy writing so far, and I don’t trust that :). I keep thinking about what you said about the problems with an outsider looking in, and so far there is A LOT of indulgent reflection going on. I’m trying to twist it a bit, so at least it doesn’t seem like total glorification. But I’m stull rather undecided whether to like what I’ve written so far or not. So, basically, the usual :D.
Fffff I think you're more idealistic than I am with regards of being able to find someone whom you will be better off with than without, I think.
I think what it comes down to is whether it’s even necessary to find someone like that. I suppose I’d be happy if I did, but I have absolutely no problems doing without either. Maybe that’s the thing that’s bothering me about Sean in this story, that I don’t believe he CAN be able to concentrate on Viggo romantically (what a nice way to put it :)) because he is still very much involved with Abby (emotionally I mean). I can’t help but feel that he’s using Viggo the same way Viggo used Isabelle (even though ‘using’ is way too negative a word in this context). I don’t think it’s Sean’s fault that he doesn’t realize this because naturally I am much smarter than he is :), no seriously now, of course he wouldn’t, when you’re IN the situation, you always think you’re over your ex and are able to move on. I suppose my problem with Viggo is that HE should be very aware that Sean is not hm, “fully emotionally available” or however you want to put it. And he’s smart enough to know what that means and he still gets so attached and blames Sean for it. Yeah, I know, we can’t blame people for what they desire. I still do, though
In the sense that they need different things from each other instead of the same things doesn't mean they aren't really equal in their need, you know?
I think to me it’s a very VERY big difference whether you need stuff from your friends or from your partner. That’s what it comes down to, really. It’s difficult to explain but I think with your friends it’s WAY easier to compartmentalize – like your friends for the qualities they have but don’t get too hung up about their faults, however HUGE and staring you in the face they might be. It’s very different in a relationship, imo. So that’s why I think they are unbalanced I suppose.
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4k. It’s really easy writing so far, and I don’t trust that :). I keep thinking about what you said about the problems with an outsider looking in, and so far there is A LOT of indulgent reflection going on. I’m trying to twist it a bit, so at least it doesn’t seem like total glorification. But I’m stull rather undecided whether to like what I’ve written so far or not. So, basically, the usual :D.
Fffff I think you're more idealistic than I am with regards of being able to find someone whom you will be better off with than without, I think.
I think what it comes down to is whether it’s even necessary to find someone like that. I suppose I’d be happy if I did, but I have absolutely no problems doing without either. Maybe that’s the thing that’s bothering me about Sean in this story, that I don’t believe he CAN be able to concentrate on Viggo romantically (what a nice way to put it :)) because he is still very much involved with Abby (emotionally I mean). I can’t help but feel that he’s using Viggo the same way Viggo used Isabelle (even though ‘using’ is way too negative a word in this context). I don’t think it’s Sean’s fault that he doesn’t realize this because naturally I am much smarter than he is :), no seriously now, of course he wouldn’t, when you’re IN the situation, you always think you’re over your ex and are able to move on. I suppose my problem with Viggo is that HE should be very aware that Sean is not hm, “fully emotionally available” or however you want to put it. And he’s smart enough to know what that means and he still gets so attached and blames Sean for it. Yeah, I know, we can’t blame people for what they desire. I still do, though
In the sense that they need different things from each other instead of the same things doesn't mean they aren't really equal in their need, you know?
I think to me it’s a very VERY big difference whether you need stuff from your friends or from your partner. That’s what it comes down to, really. It’s difficult to explain but I think with your friends it’s WAY easier to compartmentalize – like your friends for the qualities they have but don’t get too hung up about their faults, however HUGE and staring you in the face they might be. It’s very different in a relationship, imo. So that’s why I think they are unbalanced I suppose.